How To Pursue A Young Lady–Four Things You Should Know By: Perry Noble

So, we’ve been in this “Sex, Money & Power” series and I’ve talked a lot about the husband and wife relationship. SO…I wanted to take a second or two to speak to the single dude out there who has been wrestling with this question, “So…how do I find a wife/pursue a lady?”

Call me old fashioned…but Proverbs 18:22 says that he who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. So…here are five things I think a guy should do….

#1 - Be Persistent In Prayer!

I remember WAY before I began dating Lucretia I began to pray for my future wife…I had no idea who she was…but God knew. I prayed for God to bless her…for God to draw her close to Him…and for God to allow her to somehow think I was incredibly good looking! :-) (See–prayer works!)

Also–the verse I mentioned above mentions receiving favor from the Lord–guys, I think everyone of you should, when praying for his future mate, ask God for favor. He blessed me with favor–I married WAY over my head. Once again–prayer works.

#2 - Be Honest!

Don’t play games! Be up front and tell her exactly how you feel. And…don’t send your friend to do it for you. Don’t begin a “texting relationship.” Speak with her–without your friends or her friends being there…and don’t hold back.

Now I MUST throw in this disclaimer because some freak is going to read that and, within 10 minutes of the first date tell some poor young lady that he feels “called to marry her.”

Dude–STOP IT…you are freakin’ weird!

Honesty and the beginning of the relationship is NOT trying to hide who you really are OR trying to be someone else. AND…as the relationship progresses AND BOTH of you see potential…THEN the “this is how I feel” conversation needs to take place…not before.

#3 - Be Consistent

One of the things every woman in the world wants is security.

SO…guys, it is WAY UNCOOL to treat her one way when you are alone, another way in front of your friends and yet another way in front of her friends.

AND…it is so FIRST GRADE to say, “Well, she hasn’t been talking to me as much lately…so, I’m just going to give her the silent treatment.” That is not getting her attention–that is proving to her that you are a REAR END!

Treat her the same no matter what–THAT is an issue of character.

#4 - Be Patient

If the relationship isn’t moving along at the pace you want it to move–BACK OFF! If she says to leave her alone…then leave her alone. If she says to give her space–then give her space. BUT…if she says that she is undecided…but is really enjoying the friendship…then be her friend. What do you have to lose?

The last thing a girl wants to feel from a guy is pressure to make a decision. She wants to know that she can trust him…and that he likes being around her NOT because of where he might perceive the relationship heading…but because of where the relationship actually is.